The Problem With Valentine’s Day

Hello, Darlings!

The Problem With Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day is supposed to be a day to celebrate love. But, let’s get real, it’s another excuse to spend money. Americans are expected to spend $20.7 billion on Valentine’s Day this year. At the same time, they are still paying off the holidays and all those “first of the year” expenses.

Okay, I am happily married for more than 30 years, and I do love a good holiday. But, I do have a problem with Valentine’s Day

The Problem With Valentine’s Day

But First, Fun Facts About Valentine’s Day Found on History.Com

  • Started as the festival of Lupercalia, Roman priests would sacrifice goats and dogs and use their blood-soaked hides to slap women on the streets, as a fertility blessing. According to legend, women would later put their names in an urn and be selected to be paired with a man for a year. 
  • During the Victorian Era, those who didn’t want the attention of certain suitors would anonymously send “vinegar valentines.” According to Smithsonian, these cards, also called penny dreadfuls, were the antithesis of customary valentines, comically insulting and rejecting unwanted admirers.
  • Wearing Your Heart On Your Sleeve. during the Middle Ages, men would draw the names of women who they would be coupled with for the upcoming year while attending a Roman festival honoring Juno. After choosing, the men wore the names on their sleeves to show their bond during the festivities. 
  • Candy hearts were originally medical lozenges (I could use some today)
  • Box of chocolate candies has been around for 140 years.  Richard Cadbury also introduced the first box of Valentine’s Day chocolates in 1868

What Is My Problem With Valentine’s Day?

First, the time of year. Hello- I am working hard to lose those unwanted pounds from the holidays and now you are tempting me with chocolate. That is just cruel. #sugarfree

Problem with Valentine's Day- I am on a sugar free diet.

Next, dining out for Valentine’s Day. Not only is it hard to get a reservation, but those in the industry will tell you it is THE WORST DAY TO EAT OUT. I have had more “Valentine’s Day Dinner Disasters” than I can count. Reservations made a month in advance, canceled. My favorite dining disaster is being seated next to the kitchen (this happened more than once). Between the noise and the bumping on the shoulder, it is not a romantic evening. But most of the time, the food is BAD- expensive dinner that is hastily prepared and most times overcooked and cold.

Problem with Valentine's Day- Valentine's Day is the worst day to eat out

This stage of life brings many changes. I have watched many friends go through relationship changes whether it be divorce, or even worse, the loss of a spouse. This time of year seems to emphasize those emotions of hurt, loss, and loneliness. It is hard to be happy when you watch your friends hurting.

Problem with Valentine's Day- seasonal depression and relationship issues are emphasized.

Finally, this time of year seems to bring out the seasonal depression. Yesterday I published my post Dealing With Seasonal Depression – Permission To Hibernate. Here it comes again, right on schedule, my seasonal depression is hitting. I don’t feel good, and I just want to hibernate. Celebrating anything is the last thing on my list.

Well That’s A “Debbie Downer”-Let’s Find Some Positive

Pulling out my pink for Valentine's Day

Okay, I am usually not so negative. At a time of the year when everyone is in need of some cheer, Valentine’s Day comes along and provides much-needed fun. It does give me the perfect opportunity to pull out all my pink.

Latest Trend Is The Galentine Day Celebration

Originating from the show Parks And Recreation, Galentine's Day is an alternative to Valentine's Day.

It seems the Millenials have taken it upon themselves to create a new day, Galentine’s Day. Galentine’s Day is February 13th and is an opportunity to get all your “gal pals” together and do something fun. Dinning out with friends, or activities such a Movie Night, Sip and Strokes, or even a Girl’s Retreat gives some much-needed fun. It originated from a 2010 episode of the tv show, Parks And Recreation.

For Those Who Are Single- Single Awareness Day (the acronym is SAD)

Single Awareness Day- A humorous holiday as an antithesis to Valentine's Day.

Again, the Millenials have decided to no one is to be left out. Not in a relationship, no worries, National Single Awareness Day is for you. Celebrated the day after Valentine’s Day, February 15th, this celebration gives those who are single the opportunity to have some fun. It’s a humorous holiday to celebrate being single, to share with single friends, to send each other presents or even order yourself some flowers. No need to feel left out just because of your relationship status.

My Plans For Valentine’s Day

Happy Valentine's Day

After being sick this week, my sweet husband, Dan asked me how I would like to celebrate Valentine’s Day. My idea of a perfect evening is dinner at home (which I do not have to cook or clean up) and a movie (preferably a light-hearted murder or silly romcom) while lounging on the couch, wrapped in my warm fuzzy blanket. With my mini schnauzers snuggled at my feet. Sometimes the simple is the sweetest……

Don’t Worry, I Will Be Celebrating

Beach bound for romantic week ahead.

I am going to save the celebration for next week. Heading to the beach to celebrate my birthday. Going to go out to dinner at my favorite restaurants, enjoy spending quality time with my hubby doing some of our favorite activities (biking, hanging out in the heated pool, long walks on the beach, enjoying sunsets and sunrises). The perfect setting for a romantic week away. Hoping for lots of sunshine. Might sneak in a book or two.

Saving my romantic day for a sweeter sunnier time of the year.
The Problem With Valentine's Day

About Nifty 50 Fabulous

Embracing and loving the life of an empty nester, I am a fashion and lifestyle blogger currently living in Birmingham, Al. I enjoy spending my time with friends and family including my sweet miniature schnauzers Gracie and Emma.

6 thoughts on “The Problem With Valentine’s Day

  1. I echo your sentiments regarding Valentines Day. It has just never been a big deal for my husband and me. The history of Valentines is terrible. Another reason to pass on it. My daughter calls it ‘The Hallmark Holiday.’ LOL Enjoy your time at the beach and feel better soon.

    1. That is funny because last night my hubby and I watched the Hallmark Movie Channel. Yes, it is a Hallmark Holiday. I miss the days when we were in school and used to have Valentine’s boxes. I always enjoyed going through the box and opening each card. I don’t know if they even do that in school nowadays. But this day started with a dead battery and ended with a sweet sunset. I will take that as a win

  2. Lovely post – Hubby and I don’t celebrate either and your idea evening sounds just like mine! I hope you enjoy whatever you do – hubby is off to the pub and I’m going ballroom dancing, wonderful. xx Jacqui

  3. My husband had his hip replaced Jan. 29 and that has really accelerated the seasonal depression along with snow and ice this week and subzero temperatures. My birthday was a week after his surgery, and out anniversary is next week.
    I am bringing out all the stope with sous vide steak and lobster, and Valentines cookie cake. Table may be blue not pink but that’s ok too!

    1. I am sorry about your depression.. Having to be a caretaker can but additional stress on top of it. I can’t even imagine dealing with snow and ice. Snuggle up and enjoy your dinner (and cookie cake… yum). Looking forward to bright sunny days


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